So the question is; what to do? I've read that parents preferably should stay out of the conflict and let them sort it out themselves, and sometimes I've seen that it works. But sometimes my instincts just kick in, and I have to do something, interfere, explain, comfort, try to guide them, or separate them at worst.
I know I shouldn't worry, that it will pass, it's all in phases, that it's a natural part of their development. But it's still difficult, and strange, and frustrating. It even is a little bit fascinating, because suddenly, in a fight, as if someone swung a magic wand over their heads, they are the best of friends again, kiss, hug, make up, and it's all forgotten. Weirdos!
Growing up in a large family (six kids) there were plenty of spats between siblings. My parents always seemed to implement a few ground rules, and let the rest work itself out. The ground rules I remember:
ReplyDeleteNo blood-or-fire voices. (aka - No screaming or yelling.)
No hitting, throwing or otherwise being physical.
No calling of names.
Everything else, given those ground rules, was left to us kids. Occasionally pops would sit someone down and explain empathy and compassion, but usually we figured it out ourselves. A couple decades later, we are all crazy tight. But ground rules let the parents know when they had to step in.
Just to throw out an additional perspective.
wow, thank you so much, amber!
Deletethat was great advice - totally common sense and a good way for all parts.
I'll use that! :)